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My Loving Request Letter

To whom if may concern,

This is another one of those love requests. Yeah, I know I know, we may have had this conversation two, three, thirty times before.
Sigh.





I am positive that I am a pretty girl (even though sometimes when I look at myself, especially in pictures, I tend to resemble a gay man). For the most part, I have pretty high self-esteem (though I do do tend to be my worse enemy when it comes to putting myself down).

Look. Where is my tall dark and handsome?

I once knew a man who was tall, dark, and handsome. Intelligent, witty, and had a good job. One who supported me in so many ways, including my dreams. I thought I had found my soul mate. At last.

That was not the case. Actually, maybe I had but, because I didn't deal with my issues, I lost him. They say that you don't know what you have until it it gone.

I suffered my pain. My heartache.

I am sure it was some type of punishment. Hopefully, I have served my time.

Now, I would like to move forward.

I have not dated a man for the last 9 months. I have not even entertained the suggestions from men who have offered to take me out. I have declared that I am not dating and am concentrating on other areas in my life.

Part of this (I have to admit), is because I am positive that in the city I live in there are no men . . .well there are men but, not any who will meet my criteria.

Hey, just cause I am old and lonely doesn't mean I can't have standards and a list of requirements.

I refuse to settle. Compromise . . . maybe -- settle . . . no.

So, here is the short version

Tall, dark, and handsome (to me. . you know I tend to find men handsome others give me side eye over).

Intelligent, funny, good job, doesn't mind children (and doesn't have a thang for them either).

In good physical shape (yes, I have noticed my muffin top growing but he can help me work it off. Know what I'm saying. Okay okay okay and I'll exercise too).

There is no lady-like way to really put this but I will try. On a scale of 1 to 10 of the do you like sex meter. I pick 30. And let me tell you no sex what so ever for 9 months has not been easy. So, he better like it. And often.

Lastly, he has to be supportive. I got ambitions and dreams. If he isn't trying to get there with me . . . he needs not to be with me. I am not asking him to do anything but give me the emotional and mental support I need and every once in a while some advice and a helping hand.

Okay, I am done. You have my request. I will wait with patience to see what you send my way. Thanks in advance.

Sharon.

(I will assume this match.com commercial on my television is not a sign. May he find me and I not have to go search for him. Though, I would like to try speed dating. It just seems fun).

p.s. we need to have a long talk about that guy at the bus stop with me. You know the young one with the cigarette, Payless boots, yucky teeth, and speaking Ebonitics, talking about he got kidz (with a z) and from the way he bummed a dollar from that female co-worker of his . . not much of a paycheck). Not amusing at all.

Comments

Rich Fitzgerald said…
If this is your way of "suckering" a comment out of me, ok you win.

You absolutely do not look like a man. If you do, I need to talk with someone because I may be on the down low and not know it. I shutter at the thought of it.

Now, for the hard medicine. You likely attract and lose the men you want because most men don't want to be with a woman who shows continual signs of low self esteem (unless they are abusers or moochers). You have to think you are worthy and act like it if you want him to want you.

It's been a long time since I have been in the dating pool, but a woman of worth who thinks otherwise is so unattractive. The negative energy alone is enough to repel people from you.

Deal with the woman in the mirror and you'll get the man. You said it yourself, you are turning down offers, so that in itself is proof they find you attractive AND how do you know that they don't measure up if you don't give them the time of day.

You have what you say. If you think there will be no men in your city, you will live those words and continue to be lonely. Change your confession.

As a man/woman thinks in their heart ,so is he/she. Proverbs 23:7

BTW, you should definitely get that book I recommended. At the least, go to Amazon and read the sample pages.
MsKnowitAll said…
this is a very beautiful picture...

and woman you are beautiful in a beautiful woman kind of a way!

you remind me of another friend - y'alls b'earthdays are around the same time - and she compliments herself in the same fashion as you. i tell her all the time to cut that mess out!

when the time is right and you are fully ready and ripened, your tall, dark, handsome, employed, supportive, sexually charged man will seek and find you. believe that.

be patient... and keep on improving you in the meantime.

(((hugs)))
I need to do one of these myself.
@Rich . . Well damn. Point taken and pill swallowed.

Low self esteem . . maybe. . . sometimes. . I think we all get bouts of it here and there. Even though once a guy told me I thought too much of myself. Got to find that healthy balance.

No this is a small city and there really are no men here. So, the goal is to move. Or maybe the truth is I want to move so that is one of my excuses to do so.

Right now my main focus is building a brand and that is what I am confessing everyday. I'll confess a man later.

Another thing I failed to mention in my post is I am very needed and like attention so. . .BAM. . I made you answer and give me some. . HAHAHA.

Seriously, I can't read that book the cover scares me.

@MsKnowitAll. .thanks love. But, if I should you some of my pictures you would be like who is that man. . haha.

Girl, this is the all I should have said. . "tall, dark, handsome, employed, supportive, sexually charged man" well with a few other adjectives and nouns in there.

I really am working on me though, I have discovered a lot of new things about me and have learned to let things about me go (if that makes sense).

@Tee. . you should.
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