What is wrong with some of the men out there?
*I know it is cold outside and all but dag.
Getting on the bus after work I observed men pushing in front of woman to get on the bus and get a seat.
I know this is a new year and woman are more independent and therefore men may feel like they don't have to let a lady go first but. . .
three men pushed past a woman who was holding a baby and had a toddler by the hand.
Come on now that is just rude.
Finally, a young man blocked everyone so she could get on.
I guess it goes to show for the most part chivalry is dead.
I must be diligent in teaching my son the art of chivalry.
* I do not make it any secret that I got a blog. I tell my coworkers, my family, my friends, and guys I am interested in.
With that said there are those (men) who now come into my job thinking that if they stumbled on my blog they now know something about me.
So, Sharon if I dangle some heels in your face I can have my way?
Me with my eyes crossed. . .I smile politely.
Since, I am at the job and most are customers I can't say if you really read my blog you would know you would never have a chance even with a truck load of heels.
(this section of no's is a repost)
I don't want no young boy with his pants hanging off his ass, braids in his hair, who is hanging on the corner. . . Set some goals and go to school.
I don't want no 40 year old with braids, his pants hanging off his ass, who is hanging on the corner. . . Grow the f*ck up.
I don't want no man who dresses like he is high school. Pants falling off and clothes with huge logos or pictures of Tupac, Biggie or Bugs Bunny getting high on them. And definitely with no rhinestones or whatever else shimmering stuff that is glued on, ironed on, or sewed on . . .shop in the grown man section.
Please don't even think of approaching me and when you open your mouth I see gold teeth. . .I have the right to laugh in your face.
Please don't try to talk to me if you can't speak proper English. . . I don't care what you heard Ebonics is not a language. You know what I'm saying?
Don't start telling me about all the things you got. Money, clothes, car, house, and your own business. . . you are lying.
Young boys in high school please stop approaching me. . . not only is it disrespectful. You need to stick with girls your own age cause I am too much woman for you. I'd hurt you.
Little boys in middle school and elementary. . . I'm going to tell your mother.
If I told you no when you approached the last time I ain't going to change my mind two days later when I see you again. . .1) I didn't get hit on the head, get amnesia, and forgot how lame you were 2) I ain't desperate and never will be that desperate 3) I didn't go blind, besides before you even open your mouth , my other senses would warn me it was your weak ass.
And there are more.
Like responsible men with jobs and bank accounts. . . More later.
* The one thing about making it known I got a blog is it makes it hard for me to talk about someone. I mean really talk about them. Not that I am going to stop writing about the things I see or what happens around me.
* On the plus side if a man were to read my blog he would/should know what not to bring my way.
I think I am just going to hand out cards with my blog address on it and a warning that if you come incorrect I will write about you.
* Since I am equal opportunity in my rants. . .I would like to tell y'all I am not being rude with this one.
So, this guy with a leg disability. His legs were twisted I guess is the way to describe them.
Anyway, he hollas at me.
I didn't respond.
He gets upset.
Dude it had nothing to do with you being disabled. . .it had everything to do with the way you tried to holla at me.
I don't respond to:
yo baby
hey sexy
yo yo
what's up girl
and all those other lame calls.
And when will guys learn that is not how you approach a woman. At least not one who is about something, respects herself, so on.
I am sure it works on some of those young girls. Or those low self esteem ones but not here.
And it is a b*tch*ss thing to get mad when you are ignored and call names.
Dude that is just why I ignored you to begin with.
You are not about a thing.
16 comments:
times have changed,, Sharon but the real men are still outthere.just because women are getting more independent by the second doesnt mean it changes there sex,,so we as men still ought to respect the ladies.
Yeah that was rude, I wouldnt say chivalry is dead but that mutha is on life support, question is who is the one pulling the plug, lol.
like the other comments have said, it isn't dead but that mess is hurt something serious. i think it is great that you are teaching your boys how to act.
This is one place I could never get enough of. I just love your personality.
Those men better not be "grown" Times sure is crazy...
The disability one is funny.. not because of his situation but because stuff like that can easily be calculate as being a hater.
I agree, that goes beyond chivalry and into rudeness. Even as a woman, I would have stepped aside to let the mama and her babies through.
There aren't enough women out there who are schooling these young boys (regardless of age) how to carry themselves.
Robyn. . .Well, the real men weren't the ones pushing past that girl.
Real men are few and far between.
clnmike. . .Ignorant is what it was. Life support is true. That is so sad.
Skoolboi Krush. . .I am trying to teach my son how to treat people but with the examples around him who knows if it will stick.
Koffeed. . .those men are grown that is the messed up part.
That is how it was with the disable guy. . he may not have really had a chance but to holla at me incorrectly is another thing.
Kiayaphd. . .if I had been closer I would heve stepped aside for her too.
That was rude. Made me mad.
Matbe woman don't know what it is like to be treated good by a man so they can't train their children.
i agree with you about how men behave. but i would also like to say that a lot of women don't act like WOMEN anymore either. i can't count how many women i do hold the door for that just walk through it as if it was my job to do it. or when you speak to a woman, she barely speaks back. or the fact that you over hear women conversating and they cuss more than me.
so its not just the men. its both. and a lot of women wonder how come guys only want to be physical with them.
DB. . .you are right. I must agree with you wholeheartedly.
It goes both ways.
Men in general have taken the idea of women's liberation a bit to far. Yet I suppose that now that we are forty years removed from the bra burning days of Women's rebellion against the status quo of the time and it has been taught throughout society that anything a man can do a women can do equally as well, the type of bus behavior you speak of is to be expected.
The reasons for this churlishness though still do not excuse it. I see the same behavior in other areas, traffic for instance. No one takes other drivers into account as they zoom in and out trying to get to a turn they should have prepared for a mile back.
maybe we should return to the days where MANNERS had a specific set of rukes that were taught and enforced in every situation.
Is it REALLY that rough out there? I hope not. Peace.
Hi Sharon,
I had a good conversation with my Wife about being a gentleman. Alot of Women who have sons teach the art of what they want to see in a Man to their seeds but it's not reinforced. You can't just say to a young dude, always open a door for a young lady, then not teach the young lady that she should accept it. It confuzzles the dude. Dig? The art of manners is two way.
Thanks! This was a good read.
Jaycee
...well go off about it then! This is a good, thorough post here. The disabled guy part was a trip, and telling people you have a blog does make it difficult to talk about them, but just use aliases and go to town!
I can't stand to see people act like that how you gonna bum rush a woman with a baby in her hand, I probably would have snapped on them dudes
I never talk to women crazy when I do approach them. Mama always told me to talk to a lady with class and resepect I guess some men never learn
I do find it rude and inconsiderate when men are like that. I personally still practice the art of chivalry. And plan on teaching my son the same.
I find it sad when I say go out on a date opening door for the women they are just in shock. I'm always left thinking this should be the norm.
Chivalry is dead. But all them dudes only make me look better... lol
For the longest, I wouldn't tell people I had a blog, especially my co-workers because I just knew I would be blasting them. And I still do even though 2 of my home girls have blogs too. Oh well.
I do rant all day about men and how they have little to no respect. Please teach your son! I am a believer that chivalry can be restored.
You know men (some) are sensitive creatures. You hurt their feelings when you walk past them, ignoring their cat calls. And they just wanna lash out because their egos are bruised. It's shameful.
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